Mother Theresa had this right. I have seen this all my life, tried my best to deal with it many years as a singles’ pastor, and experience it myself in some areas of my life today.
There is no way to buy yourself out of feelings of loneliness . . . oh, but what a pretty penny we would give. Things don’t get much darker than the silence of another’s love. Loneliness provides the foundation for all manner of depression and self-harm.
We are created in the image of a Triune God and don’t work well alone. It just a fact. I know most, who sit on the outside of this vacancy of the heart, mean well when they say, “Let Jesus be your only companion. He is all you need.” But Jesus is the one who created us with a deep desire to be known and truly loved by fellow humans. God is enough, yes. But water and crumbs are enough in the desert, aren’t they? You must understand, God’s presence is not fully with us right now the way it will be soon. Even then—even in the coming Kingdom, he makes our hearts to feel a vacancy that all the animals in the world are not enough to satisfy. Remember, when he created man, all the animals were there with him along with God himself, but Adam still felt unsatisfied. Not until he was in the presence of another human being did Adam understand what it was like to be in the image of God, and have koinonia (godly fellowship).￼ The Father has koinonia with the Son, the Son has koinonia with the Holy Spirit. Each member of the Trinity is in perfect relationship with each other. The greatness of this companionship led God to share this gift with humanity, possibly his most powerful gift.￼ God has never been lonely. We are created NOT to be lonely.
I am sorry to the many of you are lonely. Jesus may be enough, but it is only in the fact that he will fix this crooked scourge—this whip that steals the greatest of all attributes God has shared with us. The fact of its redemption brings hope for another day when the poverty of relationships will be wiped away. It was not supposed to be this way. God is fixing it.