Are you possessed with fear that your Christian faith may be worthless, untrue, or naive? Do you constantly question whether you are really a believer? Are you paralyzed by the thought that you might become like so many who used to be Christians but left the faith?

Ninety-five percent of the time, this is a common form of OCD called Scrupulosity. It is highly irrational and, often, progressive. But it is not necessarily degenerative. In fact, of the dozens of people I have talked to who were suffering from this, all of them eventually recovered.

Fear: “I don’t feel like a believer anymore!!! Help”

The first thing to realize during these episodes is that the level of your emotional engagement in your faith has nothing to do with your membership in God’s family.

I may say the same thing about my wife. I don’t know if I believe her. I don’t know if she is faithful. I don’t think I love her anymore. I want to betray her.

All of those don’t determine whether you are married. It could be that all of these things are true, but until I formally leave her, and publicly denounce our marriage, as an act of the will, I am still bound to her.

So it is with God. Everyone goes through times of unbelief, anger, and doubt, but this does not divorce us from God. After all, where else are we to go? What presents a more rational argument? Islam? Scientology? Atheism? Some other religion? No, these are all rationally bankrupt.

We are by default still with Christ, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

In marriage, you just back off and let your emotions rest. They eventually come back around. But if you dwell on things, they are prolonged. Quit trying so hard to prove to your emotions that you are a believer. Just relax in the fact that you have not divorced Christ and found someone else.

I have a lot more to say about this, including the necessity to go to a qualified therapist who uses ERP (Exposure Response Prevention), but this is enough for now.

If you are struggling with doubt and need help, please contact me through Facebook or email: [email protected].


C Michael Patton
C Michael Patton

C. Michael Patton is the primary contributor to the Parchment and Pen/Credo House Blog. He has been in ministry for nearly twenty years as a pastor, author, speaker, and blogger. Th.M. Dallas Theological Seminary (2001), president of Credo House Ministries and Credo Courses, author of Now that I'm a Christian (Crossway, 2014) Increase My Faith (Credo House, 2011), and The Theology Program (Reclaiming the Mind Ministries, 2001-2006), host of Theology Unplugged, and primary blogger here at Parchment and Pen. But, most importantly, husband to a beautiful wife and father to four awesome children. Michael is available for speaking engagements. He can be contacted at [email protected]

    2 replies to "Help! I Am Not Sure I’m a Believer Anymore"

    • Steev Rush

      Your hyper-Calvinist may argue that you never truly were one? But I find this too simplistic to remain logical from every angle of attack? <3 ur page Mic! Friend me if u like??

    • Gordon

      Calling all non-evangelicals “rationally backrupt” is a surefire way to invite them to Jesus.

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